COUPLES THERAPY IN KANSAS CITY
Stop the crazy cycle, find more connection.
Practical counseling for couples and individuals
You deserve a relationship where you can work through challenges like a team.
Unfortunately, sometimes, despite your best efforts, you end up feeling distant and disconnected.
You really have tried to do things differently, but for some reason every once in a while (or maybe more frequently) some part of you hijacks your brain and really makes a mess of things.
Then later, once the smoke clears, you think: Why the heck did I do that?
You’re not broken. You just need a different approach.
This is where Relational Life Therapy (RLT) comes in.
A lot of couples therapy focuses on teaching communication skills. That is well-intended, but the problem is many couples learn the skill, go home, get triggered, and promptly throw that new skill straight into the trash. Not because they’re bad people, but because there’s a sneaky, reactive part of all of us that does not want to use the skills when emotions run high.
And if we don’t learn how to work with that part of ourselves, we’re kind of dead in the water. We’ll keep on doing the same old things.
You’ll work on the parts of you that resist change in the first place.
Once you can do that, the follow-through becomes much more realistic.
Trust me, I’ve had to do this work too. RLT has been incredibly helpful in my own growth, which is why I care so deeply about sharing it with others. Change is hard work. Growth can feel vulnerable. But real transformation is possible.
So, if you’re ready to create a relationship you can feel proud of, I’d be happy to be in your corner.
Things my clients say …
Two of my favorite things to hear from clients:
“I’ve been going to therapy for years, and you just explained what I do and why I do it in 50 minutes.”
“Things are going well. I think we’re ready to scale back our sessions.”
Obviously, not every first session is a perfect home run. And not every relationship works out. But this feedback is quite common. My goal is not to keep you in therapy forever. It’s to get you trained up, firing on all cylinders, and back to living your life with a completely new relational framework that continues to work for you.
What couples therapy looks like
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Relational Diagnosis: The first step in our work together is to name the pattern in your relationship. This moves a couple out of “me vs you” and into team “us.”
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Inner Work: Next, we get curious about where these patterns came from and help you connect with the part of you that responds to relational distress.
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Skill Building: Finally, I teach you what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. This helps you practically show up for the betterment of your relationship.
The big goal is to get you out of your perpetual negativity spiral and into a pattern of working more like a loving team.
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